My story: How I discovered my husband’s affair

I discovered the truth on Septemer 22, 2012. I guess the truth had been haunting me despite a happy marriage and three amazing children… there was something wrong. Funny thing is, I thought I was unhappy with my job or something. No idea that the root of my unhappiness, discontent and insecurity was stemming from […]

Missed the Boat-Modest Mouse

Infidelity Trax | Missed the Boat | Modest Mouse

While we’re on the subject Could we change the subject now? I was knocking on your ear’s door but you were always out Looking towards the future We were begging for the past Well we knew we had the good things But those never seemed to last Oh please just last Everyone’s unhappy Everyone’s ashamed […]


Trying to find the right words.

I hate my last post. I won’t delete it because I think this is all part of the process. The truth is being at the two-year mark means the honeymoon is over. Strange to think of the first two years as anything special or celebratory but there was a renewal in my marriage during those […]

broken crayons still color - healing after his affair

Will my marriage survive infidelity?

Often when you are diagnosed with a disease there are statistics that will tell you the survival rate. Those statistics can either give you hope or fill you with fear. Infidelity is not a diagnosable disease but recently I wondered: Can you calculate the five-year survival rate for a couple after infidelity is discovered? The […]

Healing after my husband's affair-box of darkness

Two Years Later

730 days. 2 years The past two years have been building up to this so-called anniversary. I read in a book shortly after my D-Day it takes two years to heal from betrayal/infidelity. All I wanted in the beginning was to get to this point: Two years after D-Day. In two years I hoped that […]

Questions Healing After My Husband's Affair

Questions I Asked After Discovering My Husband’s Affair

A few weeks ago I wrote a post and mentioned some questions I found right after discovering my husband’s affair. I was searching for answers. I was completely unprepared for what happened to me and I wanted someone to just tell me what to do next. The truth is no one could ever tell me […]

seek to be whole-healing after my husband's affair

Wisdom on a Cup of Coffee at Starbucks

Go figure that I walk into Starbucks today and find comfort in the words on the zarf of my cup. Live from the heart of yourself. Seek to be whole, not perfect. -Oprah Winfrey

woman crying in rain Healing after my husband's affair

Infidelity Trax | Web of Sunsets | Fool’s Melodies

I’ve wanted to post this song for a long time but the band has not released a video yet and I can’t find the official lyrics online. You don’t need to read the lyrics but my favorite line is: And I tried so hard Not to feel right.

Goethe Healing After My Husband's Affair

This too shall pass and you will be okay again

Immediately after my D-Day I was searching for the answers to questions I didn’t even have yet. I wanted to be validated, heard and know that there were women that survived infidelity. In the beginning I felt isolated and alone. I had no idea that I was joining a silent alliance of betrayed women. I […]


Love, Life and Marriage After the Affair

The words in my head, the emotions I am feeling and the moments of my day-to-day life don’t always make it onto paper. Finding time and the right words has been a struggle lately. Finding the right words to express my experience is even harder. I feel as though I am in a good place […]