My story: How I discovered my husband’s affair

I discovered the truth on Septemer 22, 2012. I guess the truth had been haunting me despite a happy marriage and three amazing children… there was something wrong. Funny thing is, I thought I was unhappy with my job or something. No idea that the root of my unhappiness, discontent and insecurity was stemming from […]


Revising Infidelity Beliefs and Theories

Infidelity Does Not Have to Mean the End of Your Marriage or Relationship but it Will Change You I’ve been struggling with this idea that if most marriages will encounter infidelity in their lifetime then why is it so taboo? Why are we not more prepared? And why do we continue to teach that affairs […]


Marriage Without Guarantees?

Last week I read an article that was entitled 7 Rules Guaranteed to Prevent Infidelity. The article means well and has some good advice but the title made me roll my eyes. The list of guarantees also removes the element of trust from the marriage with rules like share all your passwords and cc your wife on […]


Moving past the Betrayal of my Beliefs after the Affair

I finished writing a post last night but decided this morning not to publish it. I was reminded this morning on the fragility of life and that healing is not a journey that has a definitive end point. For many of us, the healing process has become easier with time but it’s never easy. Our […]

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Sex, Emotion, and Addiction

I’ve always considered myself to be an emotionally intelligent person. By that, I mean that I am able to identify and manage my emotional state, as well as, the ability to use emotional understanding in my day-to-day interaction with others. D-day was like throwing every emotion I ever felt and some I never imagined, into […]


Infidelity Trax | This is My Fight Song | Rachel Patton

How could I not include this song on my blog? We’re all fighting for something. Our happiness, our marriages, our lives, freedom. Like a small boat On the ocean Sending big waves Into motion Like how a single word Can make a heart open I might only have one match But I can make an […]

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Infidelity Trax | Katy Perry | Unconditionally

Is it possible to love another person unconditionally? Maybe forgiving my husband for his affair is a symptom of loving him unconditionally. Or, perhaps, loving myself unconditionally is the answer. I decided, very early on, just to accept life unconditionally; I never expected it to do anything special for me, yet I seemed to accomplish […]