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My story: How I discovered my husband’s affair

I discovered the truth on Septemer 22, 2012. I guess the truth had been haunting me despite a happy marriage and three amazing children… there was something wrong. Funny thing is, I thought I was unhappy with my job or something. No idea that the root of my unhappiness, discontent and insecurity was stemming from […]

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Moving past the Betrayal of my Beliefs after the Affair

I finished writing a post last night but decided this morning not to publish it. I was reminded this morning on the fragility of life and that healing is not a journey that has a definitive end point. For many of us, the healing process has become easier with time but it’s never easy. Our […]

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Sex, Emotion, and Addiction

I’ve always considered myself to be an emotionally intelligent person. By that, I mean that I am able to identify and manage my emotional state, as well as, the ability to use emotional understanding in my day-to-day interaction with others. D-day was like throwing every emotion I ever felt and some I never imagined, into […]

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Infidelity Trax | This is My Fight Song | Rachel Patton

How could I not include this song on my blog? We’re all fighting for something. Our happiness, our marriages, our lives, freedom. Like a small boat On the ocean Sending big waves Into motion Like how a single word Can make a heart open I might only have one match But I can make an […]

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Infidelity Trax | Katy Perry | Unconditionally

Is it possible to love another person unconditionally? Maybe forgiving my husband for his affair is a symptom of loving him unconditionally. Or, perhaps, loving myself unconditionally is the answer. I decided, very early on, just to accept life unconditionally; I never expected it to do anything special for me, yet I seemed to accomplish […]

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Mother’s Day Wishes | Infidelity Trax | Britt Nicole | The Sun is Rising

It’s so easy to focus on what is lost, what is missing, and the hurt. When I woke up this morning, on Mother’s Day, I was alone. My husband was snoring away and my children were still asleep in bed. The dog needed to go out so I threw on some yoga pants and took […]

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Am I harboring resentment from the way he treated me during his affair?

The primal questions of a marriage: What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What have we done to each other? What will we do?  -Nick Dunne, Gone Girl Movie Last night my husband and I watched Gone Girl. I started reading the book the summer before my D-day, but for some reason I never […]